Words, art, music, voice, dance, hair styles, and fashion are just some of the many ways we express ourselves. But are you fully expressed?
Oh, to be a child again and not experience the pressures of society or the concern for what people think of us—things we’ve learned that cause us to judge ourselves and others.
As a fully expressed adult you would reemerge as someone who doesn’t worry about what others think because you fully accept all of yourself and live in peace. You express your true feelings to others in a kind way so that nothing goes unsaid in the relationship and you show your true and authentic self to those you encounter.
One of the hardest parts to this formula, which we see played out in many ways in society, is letting others define your life, like parents who assert undue influence for their children to go into a certain field, or just the pressure from society as to what is acceptable for a job or career. For example, say you are an extremely intuitive individual, but you were always made to feel uncomfortable or ashamed of your abilities, so you become a CPA. You may be good with numbers and you may be fairly successful, but you don’t feel fulfilled because society has defined your true nature as something not acceptable.
Going against the grain is appealing to some with a rebellious attitude, but for those who suffer in silence it can be agony. Usually these suppressed needs surface in the form of addictions such as drugs, alcohol, food, shopping, sex, and more. None of these result in satisfaction no matter how it plays out.
At a certain age we may just become tired of worrying what others think of us and we may start pursuing our passions but some never do because they don’t know how to get past what other people think. Fortunately, there are many people to help you overcome these issues and it is easier than you think.
Here are some things you can do now to be more fully self-expressed:
• Become an observer of your own life. Know who you are so you can expand your focus of who you know yourself to be. Pursue passions or try new things that appeal to you for some unknown reason.
• Speak your truth in the moment. You may have fear of speaking up in the moment, but notice what feeling you have when you don’t and practice communication 101. State how you feel when the other person says or does whatever made you uncomfortable.
• Be willing to live your truth by recognizing what or who isn’t working in your life and be willing to make adjustments so that you can be more at peace in your life.